September 28 - 30, Stockholm
December 7-9, NW Estonia
There are many images that can come to mind when thinking about a BDSM play party… images from pop culture, like Eyes Wide Shut, ritualistic gatherings, like the cult of Dionysus festivals, and
our own wildest fantasies, inspired by the desires that move us.
But how do these images become reality? How do we go about creating the set and setting for the play party we want to actually happen? And how do we get those attending to come together, to move the space forward, into a satisfying collective experience?

In this 3-day workshop, we will use techniques from BDSM, theater, dance, and ritual play to come together as a group to form two play parties of our collective desire.

On the first day, we will focus on group cohesion, spending time becoming familiar with each other, understanding each other's boundaries and how we can relate to one another as a community with the common goal of making play parties where everybody in the room can feel safe, vulnerable, and explorative.

On the second day, we will spend the day building up to our first play party. We will explore rituals, costumes, alter-egos, and masks to see how they can be used to relate to others in the group and be used for play. We will also explore exhibitionism and voyeurism, consent culture in a play party context, and how to use conversation and words to promote the space created.

On final day, we will dive into nonverbal communication in a play party context, in preparation for a silent play party at the end of the day. How to use slowness and stillness to seek and allow interactions to unfold will be a big theme of the day. We will also discuss performance and how performance can be used to effect a space, and the people in it.

Overall, the intention of this workshop is for all those participating to come out of it with the tools they need to
go home and confidently participate in the play party of their dreams.
We also hope to plant the seeds of the play party culture we know and love, and have so deeply been influenced by, of Berlin’s Schwelle7.

Retreat is hosted by Andy Buru and Saara Rei (Betty Kil). With their mutually appealing energy, performing together, they create a space that is exciting and safe. They playfully guide you on your journey deep into yourself.

Andy and Saara both grew up in Berlin's Schwelle7, a sex-positive space curated and shaped by Felix Ruckert. It is there that Andy and Saara first saw the intermingling of sexuality, art, and performance, which has deeply affected their approach to sexual interaction, personally as well as professionally.

Andy and Saara have both been practicing many facets of BDSM for over a decade. Together they enjoy exploring power exchange, strongly believing that it is the top and the bottom that create a scene together, each with equally important roles and shared responsibility. They also enjoy the full spectrum of sensation, from the softest of tantric touch to the brink of sadomasochism, emphasising that all are means to the same end: being present in the moment.

Andy and Saara met each other as European practitioners of Japanese rope bondage in 2016, and have since begun a romance and partnership that has allowed them to travel deeply together within their sexualities and beyond.

With Andy being a former organisational coach and massage therapist, and with Saara being a former research mathematician and competitive dancer, they both are able to bridge the languages of body and mind to give workshops that are deeply physical as well as intellectually introspective.


They offer this workshop, The Play Party, as a means for sharing their interest in forming the

perfect environment for sexual adventure, through ritual, theater, and play.
Participation cost is 280 euros or 260 euros if you register with partner. Food and accommodation included.

Further information is provided on registration